Friday, July 30, 2010

Married with children …and no longer complaining!

PHIL 2:14(NIV) Do everything without complaining or arguing

I have been married for over 11 years and God has blessed us with three beautiful children. Like most working moms I spend 40- 60 hours a week working in my profession and then come home and spend the rest of the over 100 hours working another full time job being a mother and a wife. I put 100 % of myself in all I do and am not ashamed to say I do a pretty good job of it all. I’m am up before anyone else is up, I find some time to exercise, I make breakfast, fix lunch bags, start dinner, start a load of laundry, feed the baby and take the kids to school. I make my rounds at the hospital and then head over to the office to see my first patient all before 9am. After work it’s dance class for the kids, homework, dinner, finish that load of laundry, get clothes ready for tomorrow, hair time, bath time, whew! When daddy comes home he gets a big hug from the kids, puts them to bed, and then asks “what’s for dinner!!” The next day it is much of the same. I know I can’t be the only one with a schedule like that! I personally know women with longer to- do lists than mine!!

After a while though, if we lose our focus and forget to thank God for the strength He provides us with to do all things then something happens that can throw our lives completely off balance. We start to complain. I found myself complaining about everything. I mean everything! I complained I was the only who took care of the house, and kids, and why did I have to be the one doing all the cooking, and why couldn’t I sleep late on the weekends and why can’t I come home and put my feet up and what about my feelings, blah, blah, blah, blah!! I even complained to myself about complaining so much. It was driving my husband crazy and I know the kids wondered why I looked so stressed out all the time. Complaining was sucking all of my energy and I knew I had to stop.

But God…God is so good, so merciful, and so gracious in all His ways! He reminded me gently the words found in Philippians 2:14-16 “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life- in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing.” Of course the Lord corrected my motives too! He said “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” (Colossians 3: 23-24) Finally, the Lord exposed my selfishness and let me know that my complaining was not in line with the noble character of the virtuous woman- the wife whose husband has full confidence in and whose children call her blessed. (Proverbs 31:10-31). What a wake-up call that was for me!!

I am married with children and I no longer complain. I set about my day vigorously just like the virtuous woman. I look at all I do as an opportunity to serve Him- my Lord, my Savior. I look to the hills because that is where my help comes from. His Spirit lifts me up when I am down and where I am weak then I am confident He is strong. I thank and praise God so much more than I used to that there’s no room in my heart to complain! Patience and peace live there now, and I am a better wife and mother for it!

written by Maribel Scott


  1. Thank you sooooooo much for reminding me because I too get caught up in the complaining of it all. My husband and I have 7 children (2 step, the rest biologically mine)and I can't fathom working full time and doing it all. There are not enough hours in the day to get it all done but I think we often need to be reminded to be thankful for the everyday things, the smiles, laughter, food, home, love, each other...just the general things we take for granted on a daily basis. God has provided us such a treasure beyond anything I could dream or imagine. Thank you for reminding me to live for Him. God Bless

  2. Shajunia Snider BrownAugust 11, 2010 at 3:21 PM

    Oh My Gosh!!!

    Thank you for reminding me Not to Complain. I was a Big Complainer. I complained about being tired of complaining (laughing at myself). Everything you said I did it until God made me realize that even though I was complaining about cooking all the time, washing the dishes, doing the laundry, and everything else we women do, I enjoy doing the things I did for my family: my children my husband and others. I even realize that I was offered assistance and I denied it on several occasions. I realized that when I wasn’t doing something for my family or to help someone I felt purposeless. I stopped complaining and I now thank God for allowing me to have family to cook for, do laundry for, help with homework, take to soccer practice etc. because some people don’t have family and they maybe alone. So I thank him for my family and I enjoy my family instead of complaining about what I have to do for my family. Thank you again for a reminder to thank God for what I have and continue to be a blessing to others because God has blessed me.