Saturday, February 7, 2015

Attention All (divorce) Attorneys ……


A word to those who counsel or assist people in ending their marriages ……Specifically, I would like to address those that provide legal counsel...divorce attorneys. Aside from viewing clients seeking divorce as simply a means of livelihood (a paycheck), I believe some attorneys think they are helping and may even go so far as to think their hands are clean, whether the intentions are to help or not.  They may even identify their faith as “Christian” and believe divorce is completely acceptable, particularly given the existence of certain situations. But scripture tells us in Mark 10:7-9;

This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.  Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.

Whoa….. now wait a minute, who has made the couple one?  Not a pastor or a matchmaker or even the couple themselves, but God!  That should make everyone stop in their tracks!  Where is the reverential fear for God today? We could all stand to have the fear of God.  There are many blessings to be gained from it (do a personal study on the topic of the fear of God).  Furthermore, what power or authority does any man have to dissolve what GOD has joined together?

Why would any attorney attempt to assist one or both spouses in destroying what GOD has joined together?  Where is the peace in doing such a thing?  This statement really goes for anybody ……mother/father, sister/brother, best friend, neighbor, co-worker, lover, etc …… but the focus here is legal counsel. Unfortunately, the involvement of legal counsel is often where a worse situation tends to pick up speed and become even more worse (not correct grammar, I know, but added for emphasis). 

Attorneys are often given the privilege of being one of the first voices of reason outside of the client’s circle of influence.  That voice could say, “No, you really don’t want to do this, I strongly urge you to reconsider and seek the path of reconciliation with your spouse instead. I will not represent you for the purposes of championing divorce.” …..Vs….. “Well, let’s get this paperwork started so that you can be “free” and “happy” again.  You’re situation is terrible and I’m going to get you the justice you deserve by skillfully navigating you through the process of divorce.  Since you clearly don’t love them (or they don’t love you anymore), let’s begin.”  The first statement might sound far-fetched but there are many spouses who would have appreciated the attorney who met their spouse with such words of opposition.
Instead two questions should be addressed. Is this the potential client's first marriage and also their spouse's first marriage? If there are no other living spouses we should re-think this petition for divorce. This marriage qualifies as a holy covenant marriage, which God says is not to be broken.

Do not be quick to get caught up in the whirlwind of circumstances you may hear.  Become familiar with Proverbs 18:17;

The first to plead his case seems right, until another comes and examines him.

And I would admonish you not to represent anyone just because you figure if you don’t someone else will.  We should never let greed or fear dictate our choices.

For those who do not count themselves believers or followers of Christ, nonetheless, God’s commands apply to everyone even if we choose to ignore them or walk in ignorance.  As for “Christian” attorneys who believe divorce is perfectly normal and acceptable, given certain situations, I would like to remind you of Proverbs 3:7;

Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil.

And James 5:19;

My dear brothers and sisters, if someone among you wanders away from the truth and is brought back, you can be sure that whoever brings the sinner back will save that person from death and bring about the forgiveness of many sins.

Never cast off godly integrity for the world’s system.  Now, the law has its place and we do have to operate within its system to an extent.  But allow your faith in Christ to influence every aspect of your life including how you conduct yourself even in professional matters.  Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good (Romans 12:21).  And daily remember not to conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).   

Knowing that divorce is epidemic and many marriages are operating out of selfishness and not selflessness, do not be quick to involve yourself in destroying what God has joined together.  Do not involve yourself in such matters as a primary means to make money, in the end that money will not help you.  It cannot be emphasized enough …. think twice about your involvement and what side you will position yourself on.  Know that the devil is a divider, but God is a restorer.  And if you count yourself a follower of Christ do not simply pull out your Christian card for church attendance.  If you still haven’t been convinced, recall that it is written; Whether, then you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31).  Be an  attorney for the Lord, not for the devil.


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(Yielded to Prayer)

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